Couples, even happy ones, can sometimes face difficulty. And sometimes these problems may feel insurmountable, but they’re not.

Couples often find themselves in repetitive cycles that leave each person feeling more separate than together. In these situations, it’s natural for some difficult feelings to appear.

Maybe you’re feeling...

• criticized and judged or that you're not measuring up somehow
• like no matter what you say it is not the right thing
• controlled and like it always has to go your partner's way
• like no matter how hard you try to tell your partner what you need, it never seems to work
• as though you're not feeling cared about or like you don't really matter
• like you're avoiding your partner so as not to get into an argument
• like your arguments go around and around and you don't seem to get any where but more discouraged

This distress can be so hard, so painful, especially when most of us long for love and understanding. To feel accepted and cared for. Like someone has your back.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is a proven method for creating loving connections, where each of you feels sure of the other person. Research shows that 73% of couples going through EFT go from relationship distress to relationship health. In addition, relationships continue to improve after therapy ends. Other forms of couple therapy either have no research documenting their success or have a much lower success rate (the next highest being a 35% success rate).

I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor. I have had - and continue to have - excellent and extensive training in EFT. I am grateful to Becca Jorgensen, my extraordinarily talented and gifted supervisor. And thankful to Dr. Sue Johnson, who developed EFT in the 1980s.

In our work, we'll unpack the distressing pattern so you both can feel more in-tune with one another. The EFT approach teaches that couples can solve life’s problems more easily when each person in the couple knows that they can count on the other.

And being in a happy relationship is healthy for you. Researchers have found that marital satisfaction has been linked to improved immune system functioning, better recovery from illness and injuries, and more effective management of stressful situations.

Most couples wait six years before seeking marriage counseling, according to John Gottman’s research. Sometimes couples wait too long, and the relationship ends in divorce. If you would like to strengthen your marriage and work with someone who has lots of training with a model with a documented success rate, then please give me a call. I believe in getting to the heart of the matter and will do my best for your relationship.

P.S. I was interviewed for an article on EFT. Please click here if you are interested in reading it.